IS THE SUCCESS OF YOUR MARRIAGE WORTH N1500 TO YOU?

Dear Sweetheart,

I’m not a professional ad writer. I’m a personality development coach but what I have to say is so important that I decided to sit down to write you this message in the best way I know. Lately I’ve had a lot of people asking me about the greatest destroyer of a child’s life. Even though I tried and tried to write a good article telling people all about it, I just can’t do it. So I finally figured, why not just tell you exactly what I would tell you if we sat down for a cup of tea….

 Statistics have shown that 50% of FIRST marriages end in divorce and failure! Do you know what percent of SECOND marriages end in divorce? It should be LESS than 50%, right? After all, who would make those same painful mistakes again? People marrying a second time have the "benefit" of knowing what kind of person to pick this time, right?
Dear, the divorce rate for SECOND marriages is 70%! And THIRD marriages; closer to 80%! The chances get worse not better?" That's right. Because the key to succeeding in marriage is NOT finding the right person; it's YOU becoming the right person.

You see, people are not as you see them; people are as YOU are. What do you get when you smile at someone? You get a smile back and if you frown at someone? You get a frown back. What you get is what you are. We are NOT an objective observer of the people in our life; we're a subjective influence. In other words, our presence changes what we observe.

Do you have trust issues in your marriage? Trust is one of the most basic foundations of a good relationship. Without trust, your marriage simply cannot succeed. If you have a loss of trust in your marriage, you need to rebuild that foundation in order to have a happy and healthy relationship.

Everybody is a product of a family; you are what you are today to a large extent as a result of the family you come from. You are probably trying your best to be a good parent. You spend your time, energy and money to make sure your kids get the best clothes and go to the best school. You wake up from 5am-9pm just to put food on the table. All the stress you go through life is probably for your kids. That’s all fine, but make no mistake about it; the most important thing you can do for your children is none of these things. The most important thing you can do for your children has nothing to do with their education or even physical health. The most important thing you can do for your children is to have a GREAT RELATIONSHIP with YOUR SPOUSE. It’s hard to be a good parent unless you have a great marriage. Why? Because teaching your children how to succeed in love and compassion is your most important responsibility. 50% of parental duty is determined by this and the overall effect is on the society at large.

You are what you are today to a large extent as a result of the family you come from. The prophet (SAW) knew this when he said that you should look at the family you want to marry from before tying the nuptial knot. The ills in the society today are vast and it can be curbed to a large extent if each family can inculcate good morals to its members. A home where the children have being taught about the ills of lying will not turn to be a fraudulent adult or be involved in corruption and embezzlement. A family that has modesty as its watch word will not produce a promiscuous adult. If each family take it as its duty to instill discipline and Islamic morals and etiquette; most of the problem in the society will reduce. But can you vouch that your family is part of the solutions in the society not the problems?  

18 Shocking Statistics about Children and Bad Marriage

 I’ve compiled these statistics about children and bad marriages, divorce and breakup for the “I’ll believe it when I see it” type of people who don’t accept anything as true unless it’s from a credible source or it’s been PROVEN in a convincing study. If you are NOT one of these people, you need to read this anyway. These days most people accept divorce/breakup/bad marriage as a way of life, completely unaware of the damage they are doing to their children. Tell your friends, acquaintances and co-workers to read these shocking statistics about bad marriage and children. It may help save a child’s life down the road. (And no, I’m not figuratively speaking either….just keep reading to find out what I mean.) Statistics about Children and Bad Marriage

1. Half of all children will witness the breakup of a parent’s marriage. Of these, close to half will also see the breakup of a parent’s second marriage.” (Furstenberg, Peterson, Nord, and Zill, “Life Course”)
2. Among the millions of children who have seen their parents divorce, one of every 10 will also live through three or more parental marriage breakups. (The Abolition of Marriage, Gallagher)
3. Forty percent of children growing up in Nigeria today are being raised without their fathers.
4. Of all children born to married parents this year, fifty percent will experience the divorce of their parents before they reach their 18th birthday. The EMOTIONALLY Damaging Statistics about children and divorce 5. Studies in the early 1980’s showed that children in repeat divorces earned lower grades and their peers rated them as less pleasant to be around. (Andrew J. Cherlin, Marriage, Divorce, Remarriage –Harvard University Press 1981)
6. Teenagers in single-parent families and in blended families are three times more likely to need psychological help within a given year. (Peter Hill “Recent Advances in Selected Aspects of Adolescent Development” Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry 1993)
7. Compared to children from homes disrupted by death, children from divorced homes have more psychological problems. (Robert E. Emery, Marriage, Divorce and Children’s Adjustment” Sage Publications, 1988) These statistics about children and divorce are pretty shocking, aren’t they? The DEATH of a parent is LESS devastating to a child than a DIVORCE/bad marriage. (Even I wouldn’t believe this if I didn’t see the statistic myself.) The PHYSICALLY Damaging Statistics about Children and Bad marriage/Divorce
8. Children of divorce are at a greater risk to experience injury, asthma, headaches and speech defects than children whose parents have remained married. (Dawson, “Family Structure and Children’s Health and Well Being” National Health Interview Survey on Child Health, Journal of Marriage and the Family)
9. Following break up/divorce, children are fifty percent more likely to develop health problems than two parent families. (Angel, Worobey, “Single Motherhood and Children’s Health”)
10. Children living with both biological parents are 20 to 35 percent more physically healthy than children from broken homes. (Dawson, “Family Structure and Children’s Health and Well-being” Journal of Marriage and the Family)
11. Most victims of child molestation come from single-parent households or are the children of drug ring members.
12. A Child in a female-headed home is 10 times more likely to be beaten or murdered. (The Legal Beagle, July 1984, from “The Garbage Generation”) This is what I mean when I said “these statistics on divorce and children could save a child’s life someday.” Did you read #12? A child raised by his/her mother is 10 times more likely to be beaten or murdered. The Long Term Effects and Statistics about Children and Breakup/Divorce
13. A study of children six years after a parental marriage breakup revealed that even after all that time, these children tended to be “lonely, unhappy, anxious and insecure. (Wallerstein “The Long-Term Effects of Divorce on Children” Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 1991)
14. Seventy percent of long-term prison inmates grew up in broken homes. (Horn, Bush, “Fathers, Marriage and Welfare Reform) Problems Relating to Peers
15. Children of divorce are four times more likely to report problems with peers and friends than children whose parents have kept their marriages intact.
16. Children of divorce, particularly boys, tend to be more aggressive toward others than those children whose parents did not divorce. (Emery, “Marriage, Divorce and Children’s Adjustment, 1988) Suicide Statistics about Children and Divorce
17. People who come from broken homes are almost twice as likely to attempt suicide than those who do not come from broken homes. School Drop Out Statistics about Children and Divorce
18. Children of divorced parents are roughly two times more likely to drop out of high school than their peers who benefit from living with parents who did not divorce.

 These are some of the effects of how your bridge of trust can affect your spouse and children. Maybe when next you are about to satisfy your “desire” you should think of how many touts, thugs, thieves and miscreants we have in the society. They are largely as a result of the high level of bad marriages we have in our society.

It is becoming more rampant and heartbreaking when you see that children who could have been a positive impact in the society will turn out to be a societal ill just because of the selfish attitude of their parents.

To appreciate these more; maybe you really need to go to the northern part of Nigeria to see the number of “AlMajiri children” (now turn Boko Haram) rooming the streets and fending for themselves. What do you expect these children to offer the society when they grow older? They have nothing more to offer except violence because they know no other way to go about it. That’s how they understand life.

 Next time you are complaining about an “Area boy or boko haram maladies”, or thief maybe you should ask yourself if you are not producing such children to the society. Who knows; if you continue with your deceit and breakup your marriage; twenty years down the lane you might definitely have added to the society’s problem!

There is nothing better for your children than to be raised amidst the comfort of parents who love each other. And there's nothing more devastating to a young soul than to be the victim of a broken marriage.

 If your children don't see love between you and your spouse, it won't matter where they go to school or how fashionably they dress. But if they witness true love between you and your spouse, you will have given them the greatest gift life has to offer.

Be a good parent. Do everything you can to succeed with your marriage.

If you want to learn how to become the kind of person that your spouse would be nuts to walk away from, if you want to learn how to implement relationship habits that can change the dynamics between you and your spouse, if you want to learn EXACTLY what changes to make to get the result you're looking for, then it’s time to learn what’s the big deal about this trust anyway…..

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Yours for greater marital success,
Lateefah Oyin Ola-Quassim
 (Rector Terrific Marital Academy & Author of the Best seller “Love and Human Nature)

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